The Drama Continues

[CriticalCrittles]

For the purpose of keeping my tail out of any FURTHER trouble, names will not be mentioned here. Still, I've gotta get this off my chest somehow...

So, awhile ago, my friend and I were having some issues with so-n-so over jealousy over a certian person that friend and I both admire, and sometimes get to spend time with, though not very often. So-n-so didn't like this one bit though, and went around giving my friend and I a bad name, even though she has never met EITHER of us in person and doesn't know who we REALLY are. The arguments and anger and so on got so bad that my friend and I eventually stopped trying to calm this person down and even become friends with her, and gave up defending ourselves and just started ignoring things she said altogether....I even stopped hanging out on a certian message board I used to love, if only to avoid her, because every time I'd said something she'd hop in on the conversation and turn things around on me and a fight would start, all of her fans (most of the board members) defending her and me standing alone, being hated for something I honestly hadn't done. I believe the last time I posted was back in July, and haven't returned since.

Until today that is. After a conversation over AIM with a fellow board memeber that befriended and defended me, I decided that perhaps things have calmed down and people had forgotten about the drama and that if I returned and just never spoke to so-n-so or even reference the source of the problem things would be okay. So I went to log into the board and found that....so-n-so had been made a co-mod of said board and.....my account had been deactived. I thought perhaps, this might have been since I hadn't posted for a good while. So I emailed the main admin of the board asking if my account could be actived again and they emailed me back and said sure...then several minutes later emailed me back again and said this, exactly (though I've replaced names):

"After telling so-n-so that you want to post again she said she will leave if you post. She's my main moderator on the site, and she's been a big help. So for now I think it's best if you don't try to post right now. We're going through some changes on the site so I think maybe this is not the best time. I don't want to go through another episode with so-n-so and you. I'm sorry. "

So, I'm not allowed to come back to the board, because so-n-so threatened to leave if I came back. That's like...well, I could say what that's like but it might not be uh, good for me to say here. I won't. But....I cannot tell you how much that pisses me off. Seriously, how FAIR is that? How admin like is that?

Tell me, what exactly does a mod or admin do in situations of disagreements between members? NOT what THIS admin did! NOT saying sorry you can't come back because my fellow mod doesn't like you and will leave if you come back! Mods/admins are supposed to remain neutral in disagreement situations between members, right? I mean, what would YOU do? Personally I'd say so-n-so you've done alot for this board and I'd love it if you'd stay and just put this disagreement aside, but if that is how you feel, I'm sorry, good bye.

OH THE ANGER AND RAGE OF IT ALL! AND THIS SO-N-SO KEEPS MANAGING TO FIND WAYS TO GET TO ME EVEN WHEN I HAVEN'T ASSOCIATED MYSELF WITH HER IN MOOOOOONTHS!!!! REMIND ME AGAIN WHAT THE HECK I DID TO HER?! NOTHING! EXACTLY!! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!

[Leonardo_Mystic]

That is complete and utter bullshit if I ever heard it. I can't believe something like this happened, and can happen. Whatever became of diplomacy? That admin should not be allowed to run a public forum such as that if they are unable to deal with these kinds of issues in my belief.

Even though I know you're hurt that you're not allowed back, personally I think you're better off without that forum. I would not want to associate with such neanderthals.

As for the unmentionable, she definitely has psychological issues, and stay away from her as far as possible, which I know you've been doing. She has this incurable hatred and spite towards you, and what she's doing is trying to find anything she possibly can in which to destroy you. She wants the reaction from you she's looking for, but you can't give it to her. If you should cross paths with her next time, and she starts on her warpath, be oblivious to it. Talk to her like she's crazy; be nonchalant and calm.

Her jealousy has led her to feel maybe threatened by you because you can see this certain person you admire so many times, and she has not once yet. Whether that's true or not, I don't know because I'm no psychologist, but usually when someone lashes out like that they feel threatened somehow.

I'd only gotten to see that certain person a total of three times in two years now, and I was lucky I got to see the person twice last year. I would've died happy just for that one time. There was several years I wasn't able to at all. Did you see me going ballistic? No, but I was determined I would make it one of these days, and I did. I accomplished my goal.

She could easily do that too. All that energy she's putting forth negatively she could turn it around to use it positively instead. She could save up her money, find a convention that's close to her where that certain person is attending, and then she could see them. It's not that difficult, but she's probably making it out to be.

If only I was able to talk to her, perhaps I could set her straight...

[BubblyShell22]

This person is nuts to delete your account just because they don't like you. That shows that this person is immature and needs some growing up to do. As for that forum, you don't need that. You have this forum where people will stand up for you if you need it. So, try to stay positive okay?

[Leonardo]

I'll agree with the idea about withdrawing from a toxic environment. Nothing good can come of that much twistedness.
If this person is as bitter, nasty, and twisted as this to you, then this person will choose a new target, and probably targets left alone by you. Sooner or later they will burn their bridges with more and more people, until over time that person will be cast out.
Find those who support you, not tear you down. Those are friends worth investing your time and energy in.