Anyone else looking for Ms.....or Mr. Right?

[Shredder]

just curious if I'm the only one trying these personal sites and so far failing to find a match.

I must have written 15 ladies that I thought I matched pretty well inthe last 5 months, and so far, only one wrote back, only to tell me that she just met someone and wanted to see how it turned out.  but at least she wrote back and bolstered my spirits on this whole dating thing a bit ..
 
I rejoined again because someone I hadn't written wrote me, but she had no picture attached to her email.  I took a shot and contacted her, and she wasn't my type, sadly..
nice lady, just not the kind I go for...

I have to say i'm not much in the looks department, but they say there is someone out there for everyone....  I just have to find her ..

Anyone else having bad luck in the romance department?

[Mily]

Um... probably me, I'm finally ready for a boyfriend and I'm not meeting anyone, but I am not gonna do online matchmaking, I am hoping I can meet someone in real life first. I know what kinda guy I want though,

[Shin_Yuy]

i seem to follow the same dating patern... which is once a year

im skipping a year this year, its one of those... brain is already trying to do so much tossing a realtionship on it would throw my world off its tilt and sent me spiraling into the black maw of doom...but it always seems when i stop looking, it comes looking for me...

one of these years love will be looking, and i will be too

[moronqueen]

When I get together with someone, it's usually for a looooooong time. I only had two boyfriends before my hubby...one lasted about six months, the first one...and the second one was over the 'net, so it didn't really count to me...so it was only two weeks. Outside of that? Mebbe a date or two...

Been married for two years, and with him for about six. I was single for about four years before that...

I noticed that the more I looked, the less I found...but as soon as I stopped trying, romance fell into my lap. Lonliness may be hard, but if you find someone, it'll be the right time, so long as you follow your gut and don't let anyone walk all over you.

[Andrew Modeen]

I can offer very little helpful advice, but I'd stay away from online dating... I've heard/seen nothing but horror stories. www.adultfriendfinder.com though, if you're looking for some kicks.

[Mily]

Well, one thing people keep telling me is it's gonna happen when I least expect it...

[Brinatello]

No, I've looked many times, but none seem to be right for me, or vice versa.

[mrpliggins]

I haven't had luck with dating online either.  I used to meet girls online once in awhile but it was always horror...horror...horror.  As for dating services, never tried them, but I haven't known anyone to get a successful relationship out of one.  I think it's true that once you stop trying, it'll fall in your lap. I hadn't dated for a year and it happened to me.. now we've been dating for six months and it's great.

[Eclipse]

Pfft Dating.... ouch. Yeah I'm one of those Unlucky in Love people.

For me it seems to be that anyone who's interested in me the slightest tends to have some kind of "problem".    That or if I do find someone I like they tend to already be in love with someone else. That or like my first relationship, they're a lying backstabbing jerk-face in disguise.

I've been in and out of relationships alot lately. *Shakes head* There just doesn't seem to be any guys my age that can act thier age. Not only that but they can't seem to get thier minds out of the gutter, it's fine if your  just joking but half the time they're not.

Currently though...i've 2 guys.... that are possibilities...so we'll see how that goes. I've got a pretty good idea in my mind of what type of guy I want. Heh, and i've had so many jerks in my past I can sniff 'em out a mile away.

[mrpliggins]

Eclipse, I hate to say it being a guy myself, but I think women mature faster than guys.  Try to find an older man, a good 7 or so years older than you.  Then you just might be on the right level....just maybe.  I dated a girl my age for 4 years and always felt inferior or immature.  Now I'm with a younger woman and it seems we're more on the same level.

[AristaNiara]

To be honest, I've had the WORST experiences with dating.  I mean, not many can say that 4 out of the 5 guys I've dated have either abused (physically, mentally, or both), controlled, and/or cheated on me.  So...I'm definately one of those people who can't find someone.  It'll come eventually though...

[Shredder]

Heh, in my case, I matured at around 18, don't know if tha'ts fast or not

Unfortunatly for me, most of the women I see on Yahoo Personals are looking for the fit, Athletic guy.  No matter how hard I try to loose this weight, nothing seems to work, so I don't think that'll ever be me, heh.  Ahh well, back to being single for now ..

[Mindy]

Awww, I hope you find someone, Shredder

And as for the online dating thing.. I met my husband online. We didn't meet through a dating site-- we met through a yahoogroup which went to email and then instant messenger, webcam, phone, and eventually real life. We weren't even looking for love either. We've been married for 3 years now. He's my "Leonardo" XD

I've always learned to just... NOT look. When I tried too hard, it always crashed on me. That could be just my luck though..  

[Eclipse]

Oh, whoo-boy.. I dunno if I could stand a dude 7 years older than I am.  All I can picture is some warn-down tired fella not wanting to do anything.  That or someone who'd want a kid right away before his time runs out. XD That's one thing i'm not sure if I could do.  Either which way... I'd just prefer to keep it at 4 years older.

Like I said thoug..i've me eye on 2 possibilities. We'll see which one prsents itself first.

[Ty-Chou]

Yeah man, dating's tough and just looking for someone to date is even tougher. I've had thw rost luck in men. All I get are the creapy stalkers. Both online and in real life. I'm almost done with the whole thing. I think I'll grow up old and alone with a lot of cats. I'll be the crazy cat lady. Yeah, that's the ticket.

And my mom didn't help any, always harping on me to get a boyfriend whenever I saw her. And it's not like I can just go to the store and get one. At least a normal one. I finally told her I decided to be a lesbian and she hasn't asked since. lol

[Eclipse]

ROTFL! XD Seriously with the increase in guys.. being jerks... and girls being too choosey... it's no wonder the guy/guy and girl/girl population is up ^__~

But yeah, much luck to everyone in finding a good, nice, person @_@

[Shredder]

To ty:

aww man, that's not nice .   funny, but not nice at all

Luckilly my parents arn't like that.  But I definetly don't want to wind up like one of my relatives. 47 or so, Never married, no real social life except work, and living by himself... Too scary to think about that, heh..

[mrpliggins]

Oh, whoo-boy.. I dunno if I could stand a dude 7 years older than I am.  All I can picture is some warn-down tired fella not wanting to do anything.  That or someone who'd want a kid right away before his time runs out. XD That's one thing i'm not sure if I could do.  Either which way... I'd just prefer to keep it at 4 years older.

Like I said thoug..i've me eye on 2 possibilities. We'll see which one prsents itself first.

Eclipse I doubt that just seven years older than you would be all worn down and tired (though I don't know how old you are..) Four years might be good though.. I think though you can't assume that all guys that are seven years older are going to want to settle down with kids right away.  In fact, lots of guys never want to settle down.  For me, right now I'm 27 and I'm not trying to settle down until after I get my career back on track, which is what's most important to me at the moment. In the end though, I guiess you just have to meet the right person, regardless of age difference.

[Shredder]

Heh, i can understand not wanting to go with someone older or younger than you are.  My age range is 22-28  i'm looking for someone closer to my age mentally and physically, heh.

[Eclipse]

Oh I'm 20...But my limit is somewhere between 18-25..and..25..AT most. Nothing higher. @_@; I really don't want anyone TOO  much older than I am ; I'd feel..wierd. sorry if that offends. I do know alot of dudes who're 27 though..or just even a little older in thier early 30's that are sluggish, or want kids right away. *pokes fingers together*

So yeah, like I said.. @@; I'm pretty much going for anyone 18-25 at most ;

[AristaNiara]

Yeah man, dating's tough and just looking for someone to date is even tougher. I've had thw rost luck in men. All I get are the creapy stalkers. Both online and in real life. I'm almost done with the whole thing. I think I'll grow up old and alone with a lot of cats. I'll be the crazy cat lady. Yeah, that's the ticket.

And my mom didn't help any, always harping on me to get a boyfriend whenever I saw her. And it's not like I can just go to the store and get one. At least a normal one. I finally told her I decided to be a lesbian and she hasn't asked since. lol

Oh my gosh!  THANK YOU!  Someone else who's mother hounds them to find a boyfriend!  I'm not alone in this!  Believe me, I feel your pain.  I've dated 5 guys and out of the five, only 1 treated me well.  The rest abused me both physically and mentally.  Sadly, with my low self-esteem, I was always too blind to see it and get out of it until my friends started smacking me upside the head.  I think I had the worst of it when I was nearly raped by my first boyfriend.  Sadly, no charges were pressed since I was a minor and was dating the son of a friend of the family's so when I told my parents, they didn't believe that the "sweet, innocent guy" would do such a thing.  Then I've also got an ex-bf who turned into a stalker and won't leave me alone to live a life without him since my parents LOVED him.  So believe me, I share your pain.  Hense my other reason that I'm so nervous around guys and very untrusting until I REALLY REALLY get to know them.

[Brinatello]

Oh, I have something to share for this topic, but also a slight bummer for me.  We got two new guys in our department.  A short, nice-looking guy with a personality to match named David, and a tall smart-shell acting guy named Chris.  David comes to me a lot with questions in the department and he always has a pleasant smile.  I guess he feels he'll get an answer with politeness to it.  Chris has been quite flirty with me, and I don't mind it too much.  He's very handsome, but his attitude needs to change.  Feel like I talk to the original toon Raph at times!  Back to David, we were both packaging up some chickens and I happened to mention my anniversary was coming up on December 2nd.  A brief pause and then I said, "Oh, with this store, that is.  I'll be working here three years on December 2nd."  He goes, "Oh, mine is December 4th."  I frowned to him.  "For this store?"  He shook his head.  "No, for marriage."

DRAT!!!