Holiday 'Season'

[BubblyShell22]

Sorry to hear about your problems, RE. I think it's just because she's a parent and has to nag. They get like that. Sometimes my mom and I clash on things too, but we work it out. Just give her time and maybe things will work out.

[ResidentEvil7]

She called Thanksgiving morning and it went much better than I thought.

[Aignatius]

Christmas? I'm just there for the food. 

[ResidentEvil7]

Now you're talkin'.  Eggnogg with cinnamin on top.

[BubblyShell22]

Yeah, I hear you about the food. And glad to hear everything's okay, RE.

[ResidentEvil7]

Everything was thought to be alright until Monday night when someone I'm close to decided to run off.  It sounds like now Christmas is going to be ruined.  I hate it when this person runs off on these month-long trips, and the lies he comes up with for the reason for being there (about) every 12 months; my Uncle Jimmy had a heart attack.  How do you have a heart attack litterally nearly to the date every year for the same reason (eating too much junk food).  And how is it that the guy didn't know anything about it at 9:30 Monday night, but at 11:00 he's already at the airport?  How do you not know anything and just pick up and leave just like that under 90 minutes?  He says his job is very angry with him, but who could blame them?  He doesn't tell anyone until he's ready to board the plane and he does these unexpected trips with no warning every 12 months nearly to the dates.  Plus the timing of these so-called heart attacks is funny: this time it's Christmas and New Years, last year was my birthday, the year before that my birthday, the year before that nearly costed a trip at an Illinois State park that I had a paid reservation to.  The guy must think we all have "STUPID" written on our foreheads.  I know what he's doing; having fun maybe on a hot beach while the rest of us that he revolves around is going to living hell and he did this selfish act during the holidays when it's meant to be a happy time.  It's times like this I hate being jobless and all alone.  But I am taking this time to train myself to let go of this friendship, and it's not easy to let go of a relationship of 9 1/2 years.  I hope it sends a message back where he can't keep saying such lines like "Oh well," "who cares," "big deal."  How times does a person need to "big deal" the improtant things in life; his job, the ability for his 475 pound to be able to send him home, his friendship with me of 9+ years, how his family back here feels, credit debt.  I hope my soon-to-be former best buddy DOES loose his job, and his relationship with his family, and maybe his 9 year relationship with me, because something has to get through that in the real world you can't do things for your own selfish gains and pleasures, lie through your nose about it, and hurt other people in the process.  Well I'm done saying that what was all OK has gone the opposite direction.  I seriously wish I had a job where I could meet new people and make ending my 9 year long relationshp with my former best buddy easier.  If I had a job right now, I would of ended this relationship was fast as he did for that plane Monday night when he knew nothing at 9:30 but was on the plane by 11 considering the time to pack and 45 minute trip to get there and security.

PS: This is the same person I mentioned in a different topic that plans things with me, cancels them without teling and keeps the phone off or away so you know nothing about what happened for many hours late.  Well I'm done pouring out my heart.  Sorry for all the drama.

[BubblyShell22]

Wow. That's horrible, RE. Yeah, you should just ditch the guy. He obviously doesn't care about you or anyone else.

[ResidentEvil7]

I would ditch him easily if I had a job where I could meet people, but until I do, this friendship is the only one I have since high school.  I grew up in neighborhoods where it was very hard to find real friends, and when I finally found one, I became overly attatched to it, like I couldn't exsist without it.  That's my problem though but understandable. I had an awsome relationship with him years ago, and something, I don't know what, but he began dismantling all that made this friendship great.  I think my problem is that I have been trying to gain back those things we used to be about, and all he did was found more things to put an end to.  We pretty much lost everything that our friendship great, and now all we do is argue and out compete each other, when yet he's 30 years old; worked at least 9 years and still hasn't got an education, no car, still lives with an aunt and uncle, and I'm saying that I'm any better, but still you don't work for 9 years and still has no ways of self support.  So I can't be friends with someone who's mission is to only painfully dissapoint me, lie to me litterally over everything, makes plans and leaves me waiting for nothing, takes off during the holidays lying about a so-called sick relative (6 heart attacks 1 each year-- impossible) and doesn't even care if he loses his job, his friendship with me, and has terrible credit.  To sum it up I can't be buddies with someone who is a total liar, a manipulator, a heart breaker, and self-irrosponsible!  And again if I had a job where I could meet more people, yes I would end my 9 1/2 year long as quickly as he boarded that plane Monday night.  In fact I'm thinking about linking him this topic and the other one about hims canceling things while leaving people hanging for hours let him see that I really do feel the way I expressed to him (not some guy saying mean things just because I'm angry), and what other people are saying about it.  That is the best way to defeat a person like him; expose him and let him know he's being exposed by showing him.  Perhaps the embarrasment will get him to change.  I'll try it.

[BubblyShell22]

Do what you have to do, RE. And don't fret about not having a lot of friends. You do have friends here on the boards who will support you no matter what. So, just keep your chin up.

[ResidentEvil7]

That's nice of you to say that.  I need real support.  However, having "internet friends" isn't the same as having friends you can have in a real life situations.  The people on these boards aren't those who; go to the movies with, go to Red Lobster and compete to see who can eat the most shrimp at their all-you-can-shrimp festival (I won with 35 bowls (350 shrimps) once; spent overnight times that include pizza movies video games; walk around malls and shopping districts; go camping with.  I can't do that with any of you guys.  I need people who are really there with me.  Well I need to go; believe it or not my "friend" signed into the IMs as I've been writing this reply.  Let's see if he says something.

[BubblyShell22]

Oh, I know what you mean, but even if we can't do those things with you, we can still support you and be there for you when you need us. I have many friends I've made here on the Internet due to my love of TMNT and writing. And while I don't know them personally, they're still a good source of support when I need it.

[Raphael]

Well, this morning I had a fun "Merry frickin' Xmas" moment. Woke up at 4:00am, then spent the next one hour, 45 minutes having a panic attack/freak out over Xmas shopping. Finally went to sleep with 30 minutes left before my alarm was going to go off...and then dreamt that the alarm didn't go off because of a power outage, so I woke up before it went off.

Gonna be a loooooong day.

[BubblyShell22]

Whoa. That's not good, Raph. I know Christmas shopping can be stressful, but just try to calm down. No need to panic.