Perverts

[moronqueen]

I just gotta say...it's disturbing when a guy twice your age, married, knows you're married and patently uninterested won't leave ya the hell alone!!! IDIOTS. Just 'cause you happen to have something dangling between your legs that I don't doesn't mean that makes you irresistable to anyone YOU happen to be interested in!

Gross.

Right up there with the guy asking if I was 14 and then trying to hit on me. Hit on kids often, dude? *shudder*

Wish my subjects would listen to be and leave me alooooooonnnnneeeeee...or just go into hiding for the rest of their lives. SOMETHING.

*brushes hands off* I feel better now.

[OnnaRaphael]

When I was 16 I met this guy online, y'know typical chat stuff, I wasn't interested in having teh mad cyber sex, I was just bored over the summer and didn't have cable.  After I emailed him he tracked me down, found out my phone number and started calling me.     Turns out he was in his fourties.  Yeah, my dad was NOT happy.

Then there's the creepy older gentleman at work who comes across as that old guy who is trying to be the young ladies man... but doesn't quite pull it off.  *cringe*   He saw I had an iPod and wanted to look at it, started trying to talk to me about music, etc.  I know that doesn't sound bad but if you were there you'd get the "vibe" I got for sure.  Even the woman I work with gets it from him.  Aaaaand he's my supervisor.  YAY.  (But he's never hit on me or anything, he just gives creepy vibes.)

[Aignatius]

Yack, I remember dealing with that as a kid and young adult. Even overseas, in European cities that can happen. There was this guy who got on the bus at the same time I did every morning, at a certain stop. I dreaded seeing him, because when it got crowded, he'd sidle up to me, it was too close for comfort. So, one fine crowded morning, I got fed up and impulsively jabbed him hard in the gut with my umbrella handle. Then I looked up and saw he was wincing in pain, I immediately felt bad about it, and mumbled an apology, but after that, I never saw him again.
Not that I recommend getting violent...

[CriticalCrittles]

.  Aaaaand he's my supervisor.  YAY.  (But he's never hit on me or anything, he just gives creepy vibes.)

My manager is like that too. One minute when I'm like talking to a co worker for a brief moment he'll be all like hey why aren't you working hard enough grr grr grr, then he'll wait until I'm all alone, especially in an area that I can't leave like jewelry counter or fitting room and come up to me and be like hiiiiiiiiii krystle, hooow are you? hows your kid? hows scott? having a good day? feeling ok lately? not gonna end up in the hospital again, right? we don't want that now. stay healthy, ok?

god for the love of jesus freakin christ, GO AWAY YOU CREEPY OLD MAN.

his mom calls him at work OFTEN, and i recall one time telling him jay, you have a call on line one and he goes ok and picks up the phone next to me and goes hello? oh hi mommy!

yes, he said mommy. HES LIKE ALMOST 50 YEARS OLD. i wanted to run away before i either laughed really hard/loud or got a really creeped out look on my face lol.

[OnnaRaphael]

Crittle the thing about him getting to you when you can't leave reminded me of something that happened in my drama class in 12th grade.  Okay so the guy wasn't an old pervert, he was actually younger than me but it was still creepy.

There was this guy in my class who I thought was really cute but unfortunately he was a totally immature idiot.  At one point I got fed up with him and actually told him I thought he was cute till he opened his mouth.  Anyway in high school I usually wore jeans, big t-shirts, y'know the whole "yes I assure you I'm a girl under here" look, but in drama I had to wear costumes.  For one assignment we were supposed to be interpreting paintings and I picked a Boris Vallejo painting of a womain sitting in a chair holding a gun with two dead men at her feet.  I didn't have a dress like her's so I ended up wearing this short black dress of my sister's.  Short, tight... I couldn't wait to change.  *L*

Anyway he saw me in the prop room while I was practicing with the gun (it was a realistic paintball type gun so I wasn't allowed to even handle it until RIGHT before I was on stage) and he came in and closed the door behind him.  O_O  Concrete walls, big heavy door, he starts walking towards me and I started to back up.  I seriously was terrified.  He kept looking me up and down and saying how he'd never seen me wear a dress before.  *cringe*  And yeah I had a "gun" on me but um... what was I gonna do, throw it at him?  He could have taken me.

Thankfully the teacher came in the room to tell me I was almost up and I went darting out.

[Leonardo]

hm...good thing!
Of course, you could always have used that paint ball gun on him, kinda like Aig used a well-placed umbrella against that creepy dude....
 

[OnnaRaphael]

That makes me think (for the second time today) of the whole Superman "throw the gun at him" type thing.

'Course if I'd aimed right it probably would have hurt this guy a lot more than it would hurt Superman.  

[CriticalCrittles]

that is veeeeery creepy.....i woulda like screamed lol  

[Shredder]

Ugh....

While I'm no pervert, thankfully... I was bored, and new to the whole friend thing when I started to 'come out of my shell' so to speak.

There was one girl who I knew since Grade school.  Seems she moved to the next town over after we moved, and she noticed me first in highschool that  first day.

So, we started talking,  never more than a few words, and I finally got the gill to ask her to an arcade/date.  We had a decent enough time, seemed to enjoy herself, and we continued to talk afterward.  Over time, as she was a busy kid....I tried calling now and then at home and couldn't get her at a decent time.  One time I was driving home from the mall, and since I passed her house, I decided to see if she was home...

Saw a bunch of people chatting in an open garage, stopped the car, waited a minute or so, and almost got out untill I thought better of it, and headed back home.  A year later, I was watching a Scooby Doo skit on CN, where Fred was driving by Daphnes house at night, untill she turned off the light in the window....And then it hit me... God....did I almost do that?  I just pray since it was dark out, they didn't think too much about that if they did notice it.  It after that, that the 'was never home bit' meant  she wasn't interested in me, had hit me..

Sigh....I could have used  a lesson in Common Sense 101 back then....But having never been a popular kid, and nothing to referance how people acted in the real world, I had to play it by ear.. Sad, but what can you say?  The other instance where this almost happend must have been a gift by god.  It's embarrasing to talk about, but another classmate I thought was cute lived up the street.  Every now and then I'd call for the last few years, hoping she'd want to do something.  On the last call, The wires somehow got crossed, and as I heard it pick up and was about to say Hello, I heard her and her mother talking on the other end, and it was about me and my infrequent calls.

I sent a letter to her the next day in the mail, explaining I was apparently too stupid to realize the 'I'm not interested sign', she came down the next day, talked about it, and we've been ok ever since....

But god.....that must have been a diving intervention saying, "Hey kid!  Brighten up!"  These are my top two (If I could go back in time and change something for the better) list of things to do..

[Jephael]

I remember alittle over a year ago when I get ahold of a very attractive former school-mate after dancing with her at our high school reunion. I always liked this girl but she had a boyfriend during our senior year so I never got the chance to go out with her when we were teens. I was hoping after the fun we had at the reunion, we'd get together and hang out alittle, and she even seemed to show some interest in getting together over the holiday break. Unfortunatly she didn't take enough interest in me to give me a cell phone number or a direct way to reach her.

I got alittle impatient and overzelous in trying to get a straight answer about it, but I bugged her mom once too much, who told me I had to leave them alone. I didn't feel so much humiliated or heart broken, but my pride was deeply scarred.

The sad truth about these types of situations is like Shredder said, the only way we could ever rectify these moments if we were to go back in time and prevent ourselves from ever acting like such boneheads! Even if we could do something like that, I doubt it would do much good because we can't force people to change their feelings about us no matter how hard we try to please them. Sometimes, it's just not worth the trouble.

[OnnaRaphael]

I gotta say it's interesting hearing these stories from the perspective of the one that would be considered the... uh... weird creepy stalker I guess.     Makes you wonder if maybe that guy you thought was a creep was just giving the wrong impression.

Not in my case, I mean with the guy in the prop room he WAS creepy.  *L*

[WolfofMibu]

I have had guys at cons follow me and try to take pictures UNDER my costumes..... nearly beat the living crud out of a guy a few years ago.....


*frowns*

Some guys I feel bad for.... some deserve to have there face smashed in.... repeatly.

[Jephael]

I was just thinking about this to myself earlier. The real problem is society has gotten so much worse with these sick weirdos that everyone has gotten even more paranoid and started shutting one another out of each other's lives! It doesn't seem to matter anymore who you are or what kind of personality you have, but the slightest act of weird, cooky or just plain stupid behavior and you're permanently branded a freak and I for one and tired of it!

[OnnaRaphael]

Oooh I have a cosplay story!  It's not as perverted but it's creepy.

Last year I dressed as Memory of Alessa from Silent Hill 3 and she's covered head to toe in blood.  In that costume I had more guys hit on me than I had in any of my costumes the past three years.  I thought that was a little weird but what took the cake was when a guy asked me what I was going to do with the underwear I wore while getting all bloody.  

WHAT the crap?

(For the record I still have them and they only have one tiny spot of fake blood on them.   )

[Shredder]

I gotta say it's interesting hearing these stories from the perspective of the one that would be considered the... uh... weird creepy stalker I guess.>>>

Gee. thanks for the support ...

I never thought of me as that way, but apparently the first girl did.  That's one of the things I heard them mention while the lines got crossed.  Each time I think about it again, I  can see where and why they thought that and I just shudder at the thought....That DEFINETLY wasn't my intention....it's not like I was waiting outside their bushes at night waiting for a light to go on.  I did have better things to do... But I did call her once too often, and even talked to her at work once just looking for something to do.  Adding to this, I get really nervous around girls, so it was probably adding to the extreme awkwardness of the situation.

Thankfully, I'm still friends with her mother and sister and father, but she's out in NY now and probably for the better.  That's what happens when you suddenly get a taste of being one of the 'popular ones' and don't know how to react to it.

I'm almost afraid to go  back to any future highschool reunions for fear of how they may react....I'd be thinking it might not be the best thing to bring it up again and explain it away...But I definetly want to apologize again, especially now knowing that I have been diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.  It started to appear right around that time..

[moronqueen]

It is very interesting hearing from you guys...but see...the difference between what you guys did, and those girls getting creeped out, and what usually gets to me, at least, is the fact these guys are usually at least ten years older than I am, they think I'm younger than I really am, and there's just absolutely NO respect in their manner. Or they're in positions of power and supposed respect, like one of my middle school teachers...he'd always run his hand over my hair every time he saw me. *shudders*

A big part of it is also perception and personal limits. I tend to be really easy going, and I can usually tell when a guy's being unreasonable and when it's harmless flirting...most girls can, but there are always the ones who are over sensetive...there are also times when a girl's more paranoid about it, according to what's going on in her life at the time.

We're really lucky, too...that we CAN talk about this stuff, and we do have the option to defend ourselves...there are cultures out there which don't allow a girl the right to control what happens to her...if she's raped, it's her fault, if guys torment her, it's her fault.

At the same time...with all the PC, it's gotta be hard being a guy, too...I mean, isn't it kinda hard needing to watch what you say or do, 'lest the wrong person takes it wrong at the wrong time?

Hehe...yeah...can ya tell this is a favorite topic of mine? Gender issues?

[Leonardo]

I agree with HLM.
There's being younger and making some mistakes you learn from. And then you apologize and you don't repeat it.

But there's having gotten to an age one should know better, and those type of people who are true perverts. And those are the really scary people I don't like, either.

[moronqueen]

I agree with HLM.
There's being younger and making some mistakes you learn from. And then you apologize and you don't repeat it.

But there's having gotten to an age one should know better, and those type of people who are true perverts. And those are the really scary people I don't like, either.

Well said, Leo...far better than I could in my current state of mind. *G*

There're also the dangerous ones...like the one who tried following me home and was trying to be all grabby when we were still on the bus together. Really scary.

[Jephael]

I feel sorry for your perdicaments, girls. Sadly there are alot of jerks out there who give the rest of us nice guys a bad rep. Infact I used to be friends with a guy no more than a decade older than me and he was one of the most obnoxious womanizers I've ever seen, yet somehow he managed to woo and befriend just about every pretty looking girl around us! It was the most disgusting display of sexist behavior I've ever seen in my young life and I sometimes regret ever falling in with such a manipulative shmuck!

[Mily]

Oh..., I've had my share of creepy guys..., in conventions and in life otherwise...,

I know one guy who used to be a friend of mine but just managed to get creepier over the years and now I don't even wanna be near him.

One year at a Con, I was dressed as Zelda and had a creepy little Link boy start to follow me around so that's what he was called, and I still see him at like, every Con I go to! And he still dresses as Link.

[Leonardo]

A creepy Link guy?
LOL!
If it's the same one another group of cosplayers has declared as a Stalker Creep...I wouldn't be surprised.

Ah yes, Conventions.
A place where you can find great fans, meet new people...but always there has to be a couple of really scary stalker or freaky types.

Those who know Leah Nardo would find this amusing, because if you do know about Leah, then you know weird things will always happen to her....she was wearing a pair of red pants, and some guy just came up and grabbed her butt. Another time at a Con, she got grabbed from the front for no reason. I know she slugged the second guy, and I think she about slugged the first guy.
If she told you the stories, it would be much funnier, because I can't remember the details of the verbage exchanged with those creeps.

[Raphael]

*snicker* And, with Leah, there's probably a really funny story to go along with the grabbing/punching. I mean, this is someone who tried to give CPR to a squirrel!

Leah stories = amusing...always.

[AristaNiara]

I get my share of the perves myself.  I work in retail part time and I've had guys shopping with their wives asking me on dates.  It's gotten to the point where I get hit on if I just walk next door for food.  I've actually have started wearing a fake wedding band to make it seem like I'm married.  That keeps some of them away.  It sadly doesn't help at school since I live on campus.  My roommate and I have both had these creepy guys who work in the area where we get food tell us that he wants to steal us and someone else has said to us that we'd make beautiful children with him (talk about being blunt).  I also work in the customer service office of a major mall chain and I've had the joy of being told that I "have a sexy voice" over the phone and the guy was telling what apparently my "voice was doing to him" and he called for directions...

Believe me, I can't help but laugh at stupid guys like that at the end of the day.  I have a million stories I can tell but I won't bore everyone with them since no one wants to hear all of them.

I recommend just ignoring them or telling them out right to go away if they get too much.  Either that or hand them off.  Trust me when I say it helps to pass them off to someone who has no problems telling them off.  I've done it before (Thank you to the associates who are old enough to be my mother!) and it tends to work well.

[Raphael]

I can still remember my first day on the job for a school work experience term (which turned into a career). Met with the HR lady, she went over some points, etc...

Including advising me never to be in a room alone with one of the guys in the office. When this is only the 2nd job you've ever had, that's really unnerving to hear. I personally never had a problem with him, but, in hindsight, I will definitely admit that her advice creeped me out enough to taint my opinion of him.